Succeeding at Self Improvement

Copyright © Patricia Brucoli

Life is a learning process. Everything that happens to us happens for a purpose, even when it is very hard to see sometimes. Just believe that and file it away. Don’t worry about it, just move on. Someday, chances are, you will have an “ah-ha” moment and realize why you had to jump through the hoops you did to be at the place you have
come to.

It may sound trite to you, but it is an absolute fact: We become stronger from overcoming our obstacles and by-passing our limitations. First we have to know what they are and then we can kiss them good bye. Whatever they are I can pretty well assure you they either started as or resulted in unbelief.

There are many true stories of heroic figures who have had to sink very low in order to become the person that they became. If you live in a little box of pre-conceived notions and inherited values and opinions, well, you need to get out more. By seeing the real world sometimes in all it’s pain and agony, you may just realize how blessed you really are and how small your problems are. Therefore you can succeed.

You will find in reading about successful people, that they really believe in themselves. They have an open, positive attitude about others and all possibiities.

They didn’t just wake up successful, and I am not saying that all you need to do is think you will be a success to be one. You have to let the positive attitude propel you into taking action to achieve your goals. One step at a time. 

I have been reading a little about reprogramming my ‘I’m a failure’ button. It is a conscious decision that you make when you think you can’t succeed. You remember all the times you have failed or when things didn’t go as you wanted. So all you need to do is change your mind.

Every time I hear the ‘you can’t do this’ voice, I just speak right back to it and visualize something that I did that turned out okay. It can be anything that made you feel gratified. I mean I am talking grass roots here.

Did you smile at someone and they smiled back? Cool, you succeeded in brightening someone’s life for a second. Now you have found something you did well at, so do it whenever you have an opportunity. If this really pleases you to do this, then maybe you would make a great coach or mentor, or even a volunteer.

* Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. Because you failed a test,  that doesn’t mean you are a failure as a person. You have to believe in yourself before others will believe you.

* Every mistake is only a lesson. It is not fatal usually, depending. Just pick yourself up, don’t give it any energy, and move forward.

* Don’t give up - this is a process - you can’t expect to counter a lifetime of negative self talk in 2 days. Just keep it up. Refuse to think bad things about yourself.

* Self improvement results from appreciating the good things about yourself, which then becomes self confidence. When you can exude this confidence to others, this is when you will have people who want to join you, want to learn from you, and who want to be like you.

* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Don’t start out wishing for ‘a million dollars’ or something too far out. You will just get discouraged. Create a target goal and focus on it. Even taking it in stages.

Be specific. What does success mean to you? Visualize it. Think about the steps and stages it may take to get there. Give yourself a time limit = I will earn $xxxx a month by next year.

* Be thankful for everything you have and realize how lucky you have been. When I am at a pity party I always like to remember this to get out of it: “The girl cried because she had no shoes, until she saw the one that had no feet’. Thank God, I am so blessed to have feet.

* Just as you must refuse to listen to your own negative self talk, also refuse to acknowledge anyone else who tries to jam up your dreams. If they want to be limited by their thinking, that is their burden. If it is someone you care about, briefly tell them how destructive unbelief is, and explain that you would appreciate their affirmation. “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything”. 

Realize that not everyone will share your quest for success. Realize that when you become one, maybe that will wake these negative nellies up. Pray for them that one day they will say, Wow, my friend made it, so maybe I can too.

* We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. If someone tells you there is, run. It is a process and it takes time. Just as every flower started with a seed. Always remember to be realistic and logical about what you are trying to achieve. What are your skills? What are the things you like to do?

How much effort are you willing to put forth to get what you want? Not much? Well, then my friend, don’t expect much. Just be reasonable - you can improve your skills if you are lacking, and can learn new things if you open your mind. Realize that if you are committed to your goal, you can achieve it with determination and hard work.

About the Author:
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Patricia Brucoli is an internet marketer
and mentor who can help you define
your goals and become a successful
home business entrepreneur (call me)
http://www.the3rdpartynetwork.com/
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