Life is a learning process. Everything that happens to us happens for a purpose, even when it is very hard to see sometimes. Just believe that and file it away. Don’t worry about it, just move on. Someday, chances are, you will have an “ah-ha” moment and realize why you had to jump through the hoops you did to be at the place you have
come to.

It may sound trite to you, but it is an absolute fact: We become stronger from overcoming our obstacles and by-passing our limitations. First we have to know what they are and then we can kiss them good bye. Whatever they are I can pretty well assure you they either started as or resulted in unbelief.

There are many true stories of heroic figures who have had to sink very low in order to become the person that they became. If you live in a little box of pre-conceived notions and inherited values and opinions, well, you need to get out more. By seeing the real world sometimes in all it’s pain and agony, you may just realize how blessed you really are and how small your problems are. Therefore you can succeed.

You will find in reading about successful people, that they really believe in themselves. They have an open, positive attitude about others and all possibiities.

They didn’t just wake up successful, and I am not saying that all you need to do is think you will be a success to be one. You have to let the positive attitude propel you into taking action to achieve your goals. One step at a time. 

I have been reading a little about reprogramming my ‘I’m a failure’ button. It is a conscious decision that you make when you think you can’t succeed. You remember all the times you have failed or when things didn’t go as you wanted. So all you need to do is change your mind.

Every time I hear the ‘you can’t do this’ voice, I just speak right back to it and visualize something that I did that turned out okay. It can be anything that made you feel gratified. I mean I am talking grass roots here.

Did you smile at someone and they smiled back? Cool, you succeeded in brightening someone’s life for a second. Now you have found something you did well at, so do it whenever you have an opportunity. If this really pleases you to do this, then maybe you would make a great coach or mentor, or even a volunteer.

* Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. Because you failed a test,  that doesn’t mean you are a failure as a person. You have to believe in yourself before others will believe you.

* Every mistake is only a lesson. It is not fatal usually, depending. Just pick yourself up, don’t give it any energy, and move forward.

* Don’t give up – this is a process – you can’t expect to counter a lifetime of negative self talk in 2 days. Just keep it up. Refuse to think bad things about yourself.

* Self improvement results from appreciating the good things about yourself, which then becomes self confidence. When you can exude this confidence to others, this is when you will have people who want to join you, want to learn from you, and who want to be like you.

* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Don’t start out wishing for ‘a million dollars’ or something too far out. You will just get discouraged. Create a target goal and focus on it. Even taking it in stages.

Be specific. What does success mean to you? Visualize it. Think about the steps and stages it may take to get there. Give yourself a time limit = I will earn $xxxx a month by next year.

* Be thankful for everything you have and realize how lucky you have been. When I am at a pity party I always like to remember this to get out of it: “The girl cried because she had no shoes, until she saw the one that had no feet’. Thank God, I am so blessed to have feet.

* Just as you must refuse to listen to your own negative self talk, also refuse to acknowledge anyone else who tries to jam up your dreams. If they want to be limited by their thinking, that is their burden. If it is someone you care about, briefly tell them how destructive unbelief is, and explain that you would appreciate their affirmation. “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything”. 

Realize that not everyone will share your quest for success. Realize that when you become one, maybe that will wake these negative nellies up. Pray for them that one day they will say, Wow, my friend made it, so maybe I can too.

* We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. If someone tells you there is, run. It is a process and it takes time. Just as every flower started with a seed. Always remember to be realistic and logical about what you are trying to achieve. What are your skills? What are the things you like to do?

How much effort are you willing to put forth to get what you want? Not much? Well, then my friend, don’t expect much. Just be reasonable – you can improve your skills if you are lacking, and can learn new things if you open your mind. Realize that if you are committed to your goal, you can achieve it with determination and hard work.

About the Author:
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Patricia Brucoli is an internet marketer
and mentor who can help you define
your goals and become a successful
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Did you ever remember hearing ‘you are what you eat’? That is true. What is also true, is that you are what you think you are. You achieve what you think you can, if you really believe it.

When reading so many motivation strategies and success stories, particularly on the Internet, one thing is common.  Believe you are what you want to become and you will! You don’t even need to click your heels, but you do need to take action to reach your goals. It’s just that you probably won’t if you don’t believe in yourself.

Motivation theories tell you to eat, sleep and breathe the belief that you are a success, and you will become one.  They tell you to spend every waking moment projecting success, imagining success, and visualizing success. Think like a winner and you will be one.

This is very relevant when beginning any new endeavor. The truth be known, you really don’t know if you will be able to absorb everything you need to learn, or even if you are on the right path.

Do you know that luck will be on your side? In particular with those situations where there are so many unknowns, we have to walk at least in faith and to believe in ourselves.

Particularly with something like marketing, you put out a great deal of effort and expense and you can never be certain if there will be a return on your investment. Long periods of time may go by before you see results. 

If you allow yourself to become discouraged, this will create doubt in your mind.  This will in time create an obstacle that will limit the amount of energy you are willing to expend.  This is where you are in danger of giving up on your dream, which is giving up on yourself. So just don’t go there.

However, if you are busy chanting the little red engine’s song, “I think I can, I think I can”, it will not be long before you can start the ‘I know I can, I know I can’ routine! This is one of the most important aspects of building a home business.

You must, from somewhere within yourself, find the strength to not allow any obstacle to stand in your way.  Particularly if you don’t have ’seed money’ to start your business, you will need to muster all of the strength and courage you possibly can.

Simply take the same energy you may in the past have expended to feel discouraged and to conduct a pity party, and use it to feel determined!

If you feel yourself slipping back into old habits, or echoing the cynical comments of disparagers, argue! Convince yourself that it takes time to learn the most powerful strategies, and more time to build up momentum after you start using them.

Of course you are too smart to  believe in the ‘get rich quick’ schemes, right? Then why don’t you then understand that it will take consistent action over a reasonable period of time before you will see results?

Determination and strength of character, the knowledge that you ARE a success are at the top of the list of powerful strategies you need to use to build a home business.

The only way you can fail is if you give up.  You CAN do it, you WILL make it, and you ARE a winner! Believe that long enough and take consistent action toward your goal, and it will not just be in your mind that you are a success. See YOU at the top!

One of the best things about working from home is the freedom.  It is great not to be under deadlines and pressure, all the more so if you have spent all of your adult life working for someone else. Of course you are still accountable to your partners and customers, but it’s just not in the same spirit as it was when you had a ‘boss’. 

The downside is it may be hard to stay focused at times. While there are some tasks you will need to perform, especially initially to get your business started, once it is up and running, you will find you have time on your hands. To some, that is the whole idea of having a home business!

Many mentors and coaches emphasize the necessity to ‘psyche’ yourself constantly about becoming a success in your own mind. To practice what will feel like to achieve your goals. This same method can be instrumental in keeping you motivated.

If you have goals, then you have set timeliness and possibly monetary or other milestones you want to achieve.  These can act as looming deadlines, if you find yourself getting lazy or feeling unmotivated. As well, the act of becoming successful, would necessitate taking the actions to reach your goals.

Scheduling your day is also helpful. You are free to take a couple hours for lunch, or even more for an outing from time to time.  If you really enjoy or need to have a loosely structured life, you could just commit to working for a certain amount of hours for specific tasks, which will help you reach your target. No one to say that can’t be in the evening or even the middle of the night!

I have always considered myself organized, in part because I had ‘to do’ lists and I really heralded this as the reason I was able to ‘multi-task’ and work under pressure without missing a beat.  The problem with this is if you have one list with everything you know you have to do, it is messy and disorganized once you start checking things off.  Not to mention what you don’t do that you were supposed to.

If you have more on there than you can do in one day, you start to feel you are falling behind. This is discouraging and stressful, because you are just not cutting it! You start to worry.  I never could understand before, why they always associate anxiety with depression. To me, one state is nervous and the other is a dull and sludgy feeling.  Now I understand why they go hand-in-hand. Think about it. It makes sense.

When I took a mini- course from a popular online mentor, I learned why a To-Do list can create the opposite effect than the one we would desire. I learned to have several lists. One list where I put all my thoughts down each day, including the things I need to do; One list that breaks out the things on the first list into manageable chunks by degrees – this week, this month, this year; Another list of things that need to be delegated, or which require interaction of some kind with someone else, and this list includes a ‘projected completion or deadline’ column; Also, there is a “wish list” of things that include long-range plans.
 
Finally, I have my To-Do-Today List. It is very important that I only include the things that I (think) I know I can accomplish today. Of course, I can’t fire myself if I don’t get a few things done, so these unfinished things would be crossed out and put on one of the other lists. The last list is kind of an archive – It isn’t today, it isn’t tomorrow, it doesn’t fit anywhere else, and will possibly never get done. I just put it in the archive for future reference and forget about it for a while.

What I have also learned is to take consistent action – no matter how small, toward my target goal. A closing to many of my diatribes to people who get discouraged when starting up a new business, is ‘transform the energy you are using to feel discouraged, into determination’. Then I say ‘keep pushing forward’.  I think this is good advice, and when you say it to yourself, it really does feel a lot like motivation.